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走在路上你絕對分辨不出來，他們也吃麵，也愛文學，也有深度，也有小市民的悲哀。在辦公室裡，同事們每個也是忙的不得了，電話、傳真、開會、報告、more 電話…more 報告…絕對看不出來米蟲的慵懶。
最大的不同就是「長官」
另外的不同就是 「市民」
沒在那個環境很難感受長官這兩個字，所以我們就不多做解釋。想像你所有的精心策劃、公平正義、高尚情操，在那裡因為長官一切可以丟到掩埋廠。長官有不同的見解、有很好的朋友要照顧、有一時的情緒，是呀，再見，我的熱情。今天我準時下班，明天再多帶點冷淡當便當。
有權力的人可怕，沒有權力的人更可怕。市民可以討厭我們，可以威脅我們，可以陳情，可以胡鬧，我們都不能不盡責，依然服務到家。最後得來的還是「公務人員就是那副樣子」，「準時下班啦」，又羨慕又鄙視的語氣，連朋友也馬上把你打下水，多說，他們早不知多久前就沒再聽，一股腦僅想著，「又是一個公務員」。
Otherness，把對方視為外人。冷靜一點，
長官、
市民、
基層公務人員、
通通都是人。
Kid cuz and grandpa at breakfast on New Years Day
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masculinity
Masculinity is manly character. It specifically describes men and boys, that is personal and human, unlike male which can also be used to describe animals, or masculine which can also be used to describe noun classes. When masculine is used to describe men, it can have degrees of comparison—more masculine, most masculine. The opposite can be expressed by terms such as unmanly, epicene or effeminate.[1] A typical near-synonym of masculinity is virility (from Latin vir, man);[1] and the usual complement is femininity.[1]
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[edit] Literature review
[edit] Ancient
Cicero wrote that “a man’s chief quality is courage.”[2]
Ancient literature goes back to about 3000 BC. It includes both explicit statements of what was expected of men in laws, and implicit suggestions about masculinity in myths involving gods and heroes. Men throughout history have gone to meet exacting cultural standards of what is considered attractive. Kate Cooper, writing about ancient understandings of femininity, suggests that, “Wherever a woman is mentioned a man’s character is being judged — and along with it what he stands for.”[3] One well-known representative of this literature is the Code of Hammurabi (from about 1750 BC).
Scholars suggest integrity and equality as masculine values in male-male relationships,[5] and virility in male-female relationships. Legends of ancient heroes include: The Epic of Gilgamesh, the Iliad and the Odyssey. Such narratives are considered to reveal qualities in the hero that inspired respect, like wisdom or courage, the knowing of things that other men do not know and the taking of risks that other men would not dare.
[edit] Medieval
Jeffrey Richards describes a European, “medieval masculinity which was essentially Christian and chivalric.”[6] Again ethics, courage and generosity are seen as characteristic of the portrayal of men in literary history. In Anglo Saxon, Beowulf and, in several languages, the legends of King Arthur are famous examples of medieval ideals of masculinity. The documented ideals include many examples of an “exaulted” place for women, in romance and courtly love.
[edit] Masculine physical attributes
During the first half of the twentieth century, men were often associated with images of industrialization
Some research has indicated that a number[clarification needed] of women may be aroused by broad chins and shoulders, high cheekbones, and find large eyes as the most attractive, though there are cultural differences in those preferences. Some research has also indicated that women recognize a good body as indicative of a man of discipline and self-control.
[edit] Biology and culture
Direct competition of physical skill and strength is a feature of masculinity which appears in some form in virtually every culture on Earth. Here, two U.S. Marines compete in a wrestling match.
Masculinity has its roots in genetics (see gender).[7][8] Therefore while masculinity looks different in different cultures, there are common aspects to its definition across cultures.[9]
Some gender studies scholars will use the phrase “hegemonic masculinity” to refer to an ideal of male behaviour which men are strongly encouraged to aim, which is calculated to guarantee the dominant position of some men over others.
[edit] Western trends
According to a paper submitted by Tracy Tylka to the American Psychological Association (APA), in contemporary America: “Instead of seeing a decrease in objectification of women in society, there has just been an increase in the objectification of both sexes. And you can see that in the media today.” Men and women restrict their food intake in an effort to achieve what they consider an attractively thin body, in extreme cases leading to eating disorders.[10]Thomas Holbrook, also a psychiatrist, cites a recent Canadian study indicating as many as one in six of those with eating disorders were men.[11]
“Younger men and women who read fitness and fashion magazines could be psychologically harmed by the images of perfect female and male physiques,” according to recent research in the United Kingdom. Some young women and men exercise excessively in an effort to achieve what they consider an attractively fit and muscular body, which in extreme cases can lead to body dysmorphic disorder or muscle dysmorphia.[12][13][14]
Although the actual stereotypes may have remained relatively constant, the value attached to the masculine and feminine stereotypes seem to have changed over the past few decades.
Those associated with recent work in the study of masculinity from a philosophical perspective view masculinity as an unstable phenomenon and never ultimately achieved. [15]
[edit] Development of masculinity
Main articles: Masculine psychology and Gender differences
A great deal is now known about the development of masculine characteristics and the process of sexual differentiation specific to the reproductive system of homo sapiens. The SRY gene on the Y chromosome interferes with the process of creating a female, causing a chain of events that leads to testes formation, androgen production, and a range of both natal and post-natal hormonal effects.
A construction worker in 1942.
There is an extensive debate about how children develop gender identities.
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In many cultures displaying characteristics not typical to one’s gender may become a social problem for the individual. Among men, some non-standard behaviors may be considered a sign of homosexuality. Within sociology such labeling and conditioning is known as gender assumptions, and is a part of socialization to better match a culture’s mores. The corresponding social condemnation of excessive masculinity may be expressed in terms such as “machismo” or “testosterone poisoning.”
The relative importance of the roles of socialization and genetics in the development of masculinity continues to be debated. While social conditioning obviously plays a role, it can also be observed that certain aspects of the feminine and masculine identity exist in almost all human cultures.
The historical development of gender role is addressed by such fields as behavioral genetics, evolutionary psychology, human ecology and sociobiology. All human cultures seem to encourage the development of gender roles, through literature, costume and song. Some examples of this might include the epics of Homer, the King Arthur tales in English, the normative commentaries of Confucius. More specialized treatments of masculinity may be found in works such as the Bhagavad Gita or bushidō’s Hagakure.
Another term for a masculine woman is “butch”, which is associated with lesbianism. “Butch” is also used within the lesbian community, without a negative connotation, but with a more specific meaning (Davis and Lapovsky Kennedy, 1989).
[edit] Down side and failure of masculinity concept
It is a subject of debate whether masculinity concepts followed historically should still be applied. Researchers such as UNIFEM and Care International have argued that there is a harmful down side due to considerations such as
Although men may improve their behavior when they are equipped with the proper knowledge and skills, the more deeply rooted gender inequalities that shape sexual encounters are more difficult to transform[18]
The images of boys and young men presented in the media may lead to the persistence of harmful concepts of masculinity. Men’s rights activists argue that the media does not pay serious attention to men’s rights issues and that men are often portrayed in a negative light, particularly in advertising.[19]
[edit] Pressures associated with masculinity
In 1987, Eisler and Skidmore did studies on masculinity and created the idea of ‘masculine stress’. They found four mechanisms of masculinity that accompany masculine gender role often result in emotional stress. They include:
Because of social norms and pressures associated with masculinity, Men with spinal cord injuries have to adapt their self identity to the losses associated with SCI which may “lead to feelings of decreased physical and sexual prowess with lowered self-esteem and a loss of male identity. Feelings of guilt and overall loss of control are also experienced.”[20]
Masculinity is something that is becoming increasingly challenged, especially in the last century, with the emergence of Women’s rights and the development of the role of women in society. Such is the case that in recent years many ‘Man Laws’ have been created, as a way for men to re-affirm their masculinity. A popular example is the Miller Lite Man Laws, and other various sites on the internet offering rules such as: “15. A real man does not need instruction manuals.” [21] Although many of these rules are offered in a humorous fashion, they attempt to define masculinity, and this highlights the change from traditional views on masculinity.
[edit] Risk-taking
The driver fatality rate per vehicle miles driven is higher for women than for men; although, men are much more likely to cause deaths in the accidents they are involved in. [22] Men drive significantly more miles than women, so, on average, they are more likely to be involved in motor vehicle accidents. Even in the narrow category of young (16-20) driver fatalities with a high blood alcohol content (BAC), a male’s risk of dying is higher than a female’s risk at the Same BAC level. [23] That is, young women drivers need to be more drunk to have the same risk of dying in a fatal accident as young men drivers. Men are in fact three times more likely to die in all kinds of accidents than women. In the United States, men make up 92% of workplace deaths, indicating either a greater willingness to perform dangerous work, or a societal expectation to perform this work.[24]
[edit] Health care
Main article: Men’s health risks
Men are significantly less likely to visit their physicians to receive preventive health care examinations. American men make 134.5 million fewer physician visits than American women each year. In fact, men make only 40.8% of all physician visits, that is, if you include women’s visits for pregnancy, childbirth and associated obstetrical and gynecological visits. A quarter of the men who are 45 to 60 do not have a personal physician. Many men should go to annual heart checkups with physicians but do not, increasing their risk of death from heart disease. Men between the ages of 25 and 65 are four times more likely to die from cardiovascular disease than women. Men are more likely to be diagnosed in a later stage of a terminal illness because of their reluctance to go to the doctor.
Reasons men give for not having annual physicals and not visiting their physician include fear, denial, embarrassment, a dislike of situations out of their control, or not worth the time or cost.
[edit] Media encouragement
According to Arran Stibbe (2004), men’s health problems and behaviors can be linked to the socialized gender role of men in our culture. In exploring magazines, he found that they promote traditional masculinity and claims that, among other things, men’s magazines tend to celebrate “male” activities and behavior such as admiring guns, fast cars, sexually libertine women, and reading or viewing pornography regularly. In men’s magazines, several “ideal” images of men are promoted, and that these images may even entail certain health risks.
[edit] Alcohol consumption behavior
Research on beer commercials by Strate (Postman, Nystrom, Strate, And Weingartner 1987; Strate 1989, 1990) and by Wenner (1991) show some results relevant to studies of masculinity. In beer commercials, the ideas of masculinity (especially risk-taking) are presented and encouraged. The commercials often focus on situations where a man is overcoming an obstacle in a group. The men will either be working hard or playing hard. For instance the commercial will show men who do physical labor such as construction workers, or farm work, or men who are cowboys. Beer commercials that involve playing hard have a central theme of mastery (over nature or over each other), risk, and adventure. For instance, the men will be outdoors fishing, camping, playing sports, or hanging out in bars. There is usually an element of danger as well as a focus on movement and speed. This appeals to and emphasizes the idea that real men overcome danger and enjoy speed (i.e. fast cars/driving fast). The bar serves as a setting for the measurement of masculinity (skills like pool, strength and drinking ability) and serves as a center for male socializing.
紂王沈迷於妲己，不顧國事。我呢？
On the bus before sleep take over, thinking about Ted, I became increasingly aware of my increasing age. Despite my appearance and demeanor, the next decade will bring me to 40. How will I feel about life, love and luck then? Can I still dream about beaching in a bungalow? Would I still date boys two thirds of my age? Will I have accomplished some I’ve set out to make happen? Is this some sort of crisis or at least an alarm?
What more will come to mind on this journey?
I am going to wear my love for you like a charm.
It’s good for fending off boys*.
It’s food for creative works.
I won’t take any insults or negligence personally…I just gotta be a bachelor and be accomplished. I don’t need any more relationship crap.
Growing old knowing that I love you is enough.
I cry enough for the both of us; it just sorts of drips and oozes, whenever, wherever, at the thought of you.
Today, I can see us being together and apart…like this. I do not ask for more.
The only way I’ll ever amount to anything is by becoming a guy. The more guy-like I become, in regards to lifestyle and relations, not in demeanor, the more accomplished I’ll be. Let’s try that.
Starting now.
{Babies born on the bookshelf. Taken at his, near the art museum, Taichung
Yes, I would.
Besides his bookshelves, I also saw two pairs of lady shoes and face wipes. But I kept my silence.
In his room, I saw the rice bag and other bags I used to pack his stuff. And I saw the result and my degree of resolution to restart life anew. I am doing alright then. At least I got that far. Keep a log of what I accomplish monthly might help in the department of self-esteem. Seeing his things in a different setting is the hardest…
We sat and cuddled on the couch. No, no smooching and necking. It was all the very familiar simply being held, close. He said that he thinks he’s been holding me back. For what he did, he wishes I’d be madder and leave no chance to get back together. He doesn’t know what made him snap. Then the left side of his mouth involuntarily pulled upward when he started to tell me how people are still rooting for us to get back together. And how they are being rude because it is a very sensitive topic…
I began to cry. My exaggerated reaction overpowered his sadness. I cried a bunch, with abandon. Near the end, as I pressed against his chest, I ranted on about this being good movie plot. We’ve got the leading actor and leading actress together and holding onto each other. They or at least she remembers so many instances when they were ever in that position, when they didn’t know that wouldn’t last.
Before I left his place, I began dreading being spitting out into the reality where I must force indifference and fake no longer being in love with him. Well, I am back here and writing about being so fiercely in love. Is that enough?
{Run! I’ve got the love bug. Taken at Z Space, Taichung
PS. He said it, “I don’t think you ever held me back.”
快一點，再快一點，快馬加鞭的好起來吧。
狠一點，快刀斬亂麻。
If he is what you want, but reason has it that you can’t have him. Then you deal with it. Prolonged pining is never fashionable and only wastes efforts lost in tantrums.
I’d cried with abandon, the make up will not encourage that.
Please don’t fall out of love with me…
